Lately, I’ve been feeling really pulled to the beach.

Last Friday I went to the beach for my birthday. And while I was taking in the beautiful scene and enjoying the sound of the crashing waves, it hit me …

The ocean is a metaphor for love as it’s expansive. You expand because of love. And True Love is infinite. You may hit a rocky patch, but the underlying love can help you weather whatever waves you encounter because it’s never-ending. And like the waves, love is a powerful force for good.  

Like many people, I’ve had my heart broken open. I thought I was going to marry my ex-BF. I loved him deeply. But while we were meant to be together for a time and meant to teach each other a lot about love and life, we were not meant to be together forever.

Now, more than 2 years later, I feel I am finally ready for that forever relationship.

It might scare off the wrong guy, but that’s OK because it saves me a lot of time. (I really like saving time at this point in my life!)

But there’s something really cool and different this time around.

I’ve let go of my ego. 

On a date, I’m not worrying ‘does he like me.’ I know I’m awesome. And I want someone just as awesome. But, even if the guy across from me is awesome, it may not be a match. I might feel it or he might feel it. And so it ends.

And it’s OK.

I don’t take it personally.

I definitely used to take it personally.

I thought: I’m not as pretty as the other girls. I’m not as smart. I’m not as cool. I’m not as experienced. I’m not a flirt. 

I could go on and on.

Whatever it was. Those thoughts weren’t true.

It just wasn’t meant to be. Someone else/Something out there/A Higher Purpose … had my best interest at heart where I had a blind spot.

Because this I know for sure: whenever something doesn’t work out the way you want it to, it’s undoubtedly because something better is on the horizon.

You just have to have patience.

Oh, patience.

Easier said than done, right?

What I’ve realized, as I start my 31st turn around the sun, is that I am already whole. I am already so loved. My true love is out there, but in the meantime, I have so much love in my life.

My friends. My family. My giant extended family. My parents’ dogs. Even my clients who always turn into friends.

When I was starting my business and it was tough times, my dad would lecture over and over: focus on what you have.

Of course, my dad is also the one who introduced me to The Power of Intention at age 22, which effectively changed my life. It merged my Catholic upbringing with the spirituality I’d always felt, but didn’t know I felt.

And I realized: all you need is LOVE. 

So, while I may not have that true love relationship yet, there is still so much LOVE in my life. Every interaction is an act of love. Every time I work with a client, I come from a place of love. Every time I let someone merge in front of me on the highway, it comes from love.

And as I’ve focused on LOVE all around me, everything has flourished. My life, my business, my relationships, my family.

Because all you need is LOVE.

And there is so much love in your life already, too.

Even if you can’t see it, it’s there. Promise.

You’re awesome. I love you.

 

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2 thoughts on “All you need is LOVE

  1. My darling friend, and fabulous stylist, this is such a beautiful post. Thank you for writing it and opening up. You are amazing, and so loved, and I know you so well, even if we haven’t been able to connect as much as I know we would like to in the last few months. You are remarkable and I love this. It’s the root of everything. Because even in an amazing relationship you can feel lonely, or isolated, if you don’t have this core focus — that you are loved. Just as you are. I love you dearly (so does Betty) and when your travels are up — I can’t wait to see you back in L.A. I loved this and it was just what I needed to read today! xoxo

    Posted on July 31, 2014 at 3:42 pm
  2. Beautiful Jill! SO good to hear from you and I’m so happy to hear my words resonated with you. I CAN NOT WAIT to finally get to see you and catch up (I think we’re going to have to set aside a good amount of time!) Sending hugs! xox

    Posted on July 31, 2014 at 6:00 pm