BY CATHERINE CASSIDY

I’ve shared bits of my story with you before, but this last month has been quite an introspective one for me. In fact, these last two years have been as much about personal growth as they have been about business growth.

I’ve had an a-ha over a couple of things in particular and I wonder if you can relate.

Have you ever dressed down because you didn’t want to bring attention to yourself?

So you have a great body, you know you’re beautiful, but you feel uncomfortable when someone comments or looks at you?

I remember one time when I was visiting my Grandma up in SF while I was in college. We’d gone shopping (as was a part of our ritual) and I’d bought this beautiful white skirt. The skirt was really feminine and pretty, but it was also striking because of the white. We were being seated for dinner (Grandma is a prime example of a life in style) and my Grandma pointed out to me that I was turning heads as we walked through the restaurant.

Instead of taking the compliment, I instantly became shy and self-conscious. Why would they look at me? I don’t want them to look at me!

Or, when I was back from my freshman year of college and at my debutante ball and I loved my dress. I loved the opportunity to dress up and hang out with my guy friends on the floor committee and my BFF. Not to mention my brothers had to get all dolled up, too, and learn some sweet dance moves. Anyway, even then, as I was being presented, loving my dress, I could feel the eyes on me and had to simply focus on my steps and moving forward.

(Yes, I was a debutante which means I’m also a great resource for etiquette tips!)

There are numerous similar accounts I could share, but I don’t need to. I think you get the picture.

It’s taken me a long time to be comfortable standing out in the spotlight and owning my feminine power. In fact, it’s really a daily battle still. However, I get to make the conscious decision to dress for myself, to inspire others and own the fact that I make a statement with my presence.

Because if I do that, then another women gets to as well.

Does your dress reflect your confidence and power? Or are you still playing the role of a wallflower?